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 Separated & Divorced

 



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Divorce has touched nearly every Catholic family in America. It is a painful process that affects every facet of human existence, a process in which many are hurt. Separation and divorce are difficult and usually cause grievous losses, yet this can be a time filled with potential for vibrant new growth and responsiveness to grace. Among the people for whom Jesus showed special care were those who suffered from the breakdown of the marriage relationship.
 
 
The Synod Fathers noted that “special discernment is indispensable for the pastoral care of those who are separated, divorced or abandoned. Respect needs to be shown especially for the sufferings of those who have unjustly endured separation, divorce or abandonment, or those who have been forced by maltreatment from a husband or a wife to interrupt their life together.”
- Pope Francis, AMORIS LÆTITIA (The Joy of Love), Chapter 242
 
 
 
About

MISSION

Our mission is to be a Catholic Faith resource of spiritual and practical help for families that are hurting because of broken relationships and to give hope to those recovering from separation, and divorce. Our energies are directed toward supporting, helping, enabling and empowering each other in that journey. We wish to belong fully to our Faith Family, to be a gift that inspires and a lesson by which others may learn and grow.

SPIRITUAL DIRECTORT

Fr. Patrick J. Hill, MA, JCL, DMin


CONTACT

Julie Auzenne
Separated and Divorced Consultant, Office of Family Life
(213) 637-7249

Help for Troubled Marriages

 
During this challenging time in your life, God’s love and support can come from compassionate Catholic people and organizations that can guide us to a new life journey with the following support:
 
The following two resources are for those who may still have hope to work on their marriage:
 

​RETROUVAILLE 

(English​​ & Spanish)

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The Retrouvaille Program consists of a weekend experience combined with post-weekend sessions. It is designed to provide the tools to help put your marriage in order again. The main emphasis of the program is on communication between husband and wife. It will give you the opportunity to rediscover each other and to examine your lives together in a new and positive ways.
 
THERAPIST REFERRALS
(English & Spanish)
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This Referral Directory contains the names and information of Therapists who are in private practice or are part of a larger group or clinic. Each Therapist is either Catholic or Christian and has agreed to uphold the teachings of the Catholic Church.

Archdiocese of Los Angeles, Office of Family Life
Annette Vichot
 
 
 
 

Support Groups

The following groups are for those Catholics who are seeking support after their separation or divorce has become final:
•  Hope that there is a life after divorce
•  A place to come and share your story and learn from others
•  A place to further the spiritual, emotional, educational and social welfare of Separated and Divorced Catholics and their families.
 
If interested in starting a support group in your parish, with free training, contact: 
 
Julie Auzenne
Separated and Divorced Consultant
(213) 637-7249
 
 

OUR LADY OF THE ANGELS REGION

PHOENIX MINISTRY
St. Monica, Santa Monica (Meets on Wednesday 7:00pm - 8:30pm)
Contacts: Delis Alejandro (310) 566-1530 or delis@stmonica.net,
Steven Ministry (310) 566-1575

SAN FERNANDO REGION

NEW LEAF
St. Joseph the Worker, Canoga Park (2nd & 4th Tuesdays - 7:30pm), Parish Center
Contact: Bill Sparks (818) 883-7810 or bill@sjwchurch.com
Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Newhall (1st & 3rd Thursdays), Conference Center, Room 2
Contacts:    Joyce L’Heureux (661) 296-7622 or cresthome@att.net, Bob Maryon (661) 225-1452
 
St. John Eudes, Chatsworth (2nd & 4th Fridays at 8:00 pm), Grill Hall, Room C
Contact: Kathy Tickner (818) 349-9335

SAN GABRIEL REGION

HEALING HEARTS
Immaculate Conception, Monrovia (1st & 3rd Mondays 7:00 pm), Room 1A
Contact: Julie Auzenne (626) 357-6508 or jmonell@la-archdiocese.org
 
Holy Family, South Pasadena (Thursdays, 7:30pm)
Mother Theresa Room of the Holy Family Pastoral Center
Holy Family Pastoral Center (626) 799-8908
Contacts: Terri Lynn Doubet (818) 729-0577, Bill Metzdorf (619) 301-4007

SAN PEDRO REGION

American Martyrs, Manhattan Beach (1st & 3rd Tuesdays, 7:00pm – 9:00pm)
Contact: Jenny Attanasio (310) 545-5651 or jattanasio@americanmartyrs.org
 
Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Downey (Thursdays, 7:00pm – 9:00pm), Spanish
Contact: Maria Paredes (562) 397-6444 or mariadp90241@me.com

SANTA BARBARA REGION

HEALING TOGETHER
St. Rose of Lima, Simi Valley (1st & 3rd Friday)
Contacts:     Jean Jenners josephm34@sbcglobal.net, David Brown (805) 526-1732 or parish@strosesv.com
NEW HORIZONS
St. Louis de Montfort, Santa Maria
Contact: Jerry Kipper (895) 938-5338

 Support Groups for Children

RAINBOWS FOR ALL CHILDREN: GUIDING YOUTH THROUGH THE STORMS OF LIFE (Coming 2017)

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Rainbows for All Children is dedicated to being the premier source of support for all youth as they navigate grief and heal from lost, whether from death, divorced, deployment, or other trauma.

https://rainbows.org​
 

 Resources

ONLINE

THE BEGINNING EXPERIENCE (English)
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The Beginning Experience is a structured weekend program where widowed, separated and divorced persons are guided through their grief process.  The Beginning Experience is an international peer ministry. 

www.beginningexperience.org
CATHOLIC DIVORCED MINISTRY (English)
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​Since 1974, NACSDC has been committed to the healing and recovery of those who have experienced separation and divorce. 

www.nacsdc.org
DIVORCED CATHOLIC MINISTRY (English)
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Resources of programs and books for divorced Catholics to help get your life back on track after divorce and move forward in your faith with hope and confidence.

www.divorcedcatholic.com

Free Daily Inspiration email messages to encourage and inspire you on the journey after divorce. 

http://www.divorcedcatholic.com/daily-inspirations/
THE CATHOLIC'S DIVORCED SURVIVAL GUIDE (English)
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​The guide was created to bring hope and healing to divorce and separated Catholics. Helping you find peace, power and passion after divorce. 

www.catholicsdivorce.com
 

 BOOKS

 
DIVORCED. CATHOLIC. NOW WHAT?
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This book is written to address the core challenges every Catholic experiences with divorce from the perspective of their Catholic faith. Living the Catholic faith is the key to recovering from divorce.

http://divorcedcatholic.com/books/ ​
DIVORCE AND BEYOND
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​When a marriage ends it is more than a separation of two people. It is a death of an important part of their lives. Divorce and Beyond, the popular program for adults who have gone through a recent divorce, offers readers the support and guidance they need to help them through the divorcing process.

http://actapublications.com/divorce-and-beyond-participant/
REBUILDING WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP ENDS
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Rebuilding features Fisher’s “divorce process rebuilding blocks,” a proven nineteen-step process for putting one’s life back together after divorce. The “rebuilding” model makes the process healthier and less traumatic for those who are divorcing or divorced—and their children.

https://www.newharbinger.com/rebuilding-third-edition
PRAYERS FOR CATHOLICS EXPERIENCING DIVORCE
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​Prayers for Catholics Experiencing Divorce are forty-four prayers to help Catholics experiencing divorce heal the hurt as they rediscover themselves and their self-worth.
                                                                                                                         
http://www.liguori.org/prayers-for-catholics-experiencing-divorce.html
WHEN PARENTS DIVORCE OR SEPARATE​
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Divorce and separation are painful experiences, particularly for children. Children may not fully understand what is happening between their parents. They may think that they are at fault, or feel like they are caught in the middle. As the divorce or separation unfolds and major changes in family structure and dynamics start to take place, children may become overwhelmed by their reactions.                                                                                                                  

http://store.pauline.org/english/books/productid/4279#gsc.tab=0
MAKING YOUR WAY AFTER YOUR PARENTS' DIVORCE​
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​This book takes an honest look at the effects that divorce can have in the life of a teenager or young adult, and the ways that they can move toward healing and forgiveness after their parents' divorce. Although aimed at teenagers and young adults, this book is a valuable resource for counselors, ministers, religious educators, social workers, and divorced parents themselves. Ideal for both individual and group use.                                                                                                                  

http://www.liguori.org/making-your-way-after-your-parents-divorce.html
​PARENTING AFTER DIVORE. RESOLVING CONFLICTS AND MEETIN YOUR CHILDREN'S NEEDS
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​Stahl knows parents are not perfect, and he uses that knowledge to show imperfect parents how to settle their differences in the best interests of the children. Packed with real-world examples, this book avoids idealistic assumptions, and offers practical help for divorcing parents, custody evaluators, family court counselors, marriage and family therapists and others interested in the best interests of the children.  
 

 Upcoming Events & Leadership Training

 •  Catholic Divorce Ministry National Conference: “Building Bridges with the Divorced & Separated”
•  SDW Stations of the Cross

Information About Declaration of Nullity

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​Contact your parish pastor for more information about the Declaration of Nullity process.
 
Metropolitan Marriage Tribunal:
 
 

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